Monday, February 27, 2012

Everything You Do Matters ...

"Just as our acts of kindness can create good effects in the world around us and abroad, so too can our acts of negativity and unthoughtful ways"

~Danielle Miyoshi

Everything you do matters.  Everything you don't do matters.  Each choice, each form of action and non-action has it's effects.  Whether these effects are good or bad depends on you.  A simple smile can truly change someone's life. You never know what someone is going through at any given moment, or how they will react to your actions or lack thereof, and although we cannot save the world every single second of our lives, we sure can do our best not to make it any harder for others and ourselves.  

 It takes a conscious effort on our part to act in kindness towards others and even courage and strength to show kindness towards people who can be difficult to deal with.  However, it is in our best interest to practice this kindness each and every day, hour, and moment.  The more beauty we send out into the world, the more beautiful our own world becomes. The kinder we are to others, the kinder others will be to the people in their own world, and so on. 

Just as our acts of kindness can create good effects in the world around us and abroad, so too can our acts of negativity and unthoughtful ways, which can be hurtful, whether intentional or non-intentional.  This is why it is so important to remain conscious of our thoughts, feelings, actions and the way we handle all of them.  We need to study our emotions and behavior patters and try as best we can to cultivate our best selves.  We have to remember that our feelings aren't the only feelings that matter in the world.  And that we are effective in this world whether good or bad, whether we like it or not.  There is no avoiding this.  There are only two options, and that is to be either a positive effect or a negative one.. the choice is always ours.

Thursday, February 16, 2012

Live a Life that Matters ...

Ready or not, some day it will come to an end.  There will be no more sunrises, no minutes, hours or days.  All the things you collected, whether treasured or forgotten will pass to someone else.

Your wealth, fame and temporal power will shrivel to irrelevance.  It will not matter what you owned or what you were owed.  Your grudges, resentments, frustrations and jealousies will finally disappear.

So, too, your hopes, ambitions, plans, and to-do lists will expire.  The wins and losses that once seemed so important will fade away.  It wont matter where you came from.

It wont matter whether you were born beautiful or brilliant.  Even your gender and skin color will be irrelevant.  So what will matter?

What will matter is not what you bought but what you built.  Not what you got, but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success, but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned, but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence, but your character.

What will matter is not how many people you knew but how many will feel a lasting loss when you're gone.

What will matter is not your memories but the memories that live on in those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn't happen by accident.

It happens by choice . . .

Tuesday, February 14, 2012

Express Who You Really Are ...

"Every desire reveals your true nature." ~ David Deida

Every day you want to do many things, from hugging your lover to earning money. Why? What feeling underlies all your hopes and dreams? This feeling is the tension between who you really are and who you assume yourself to be.

Consider your desire for intimate relationship. There are many reasons for engaging in a relationship. But you only feel utterly fulfilled in intimacy when you and your lover trust each other so much that you are willing to let down your guards, open your hearts, and love. This is your deepest desire in intimacy because, in truth, you are open as love—but you assume yourself to be a separate, isolated individual. So you scheme and dream to experience in your relationship what, in truth, you already are.

You want to enjoy financial security because, in truth, you are abundance, although you assume only effort will provide a feeling of ease. You enjoy dangerous sports because in every moment you are at the edge of death—the ultimate edge of winning or losing—and yet your assumed security makes you seek risks. You want to eat chocolate because, deep in your heart, you are blissful fullness, though you often close to its pleasure and so seek its taste.

Through your daily round, you seek to approximate the truth of who you are that you have lost touch with. This drama of approximation is the story of your life. You never quite succeed like you hope to. You never quite get the love you really want. And so you either try harder or give up trying. In either case, you are missing the point of existence.

Monday, February 13, 2012

Make This Day Yours ...

I promise you nothing is as chaotic as it seems. Nothing is worth your health. Nothing is worth poisoning yourself into stress, anxiety, and fear. 
Whatever you will face today, you have everything it takes to face it head on! All you need to do is believe in yourself and your abilities. Do not let today's adversities get the better of you . . . instead, challenge them and show the world and yourself that you are greater than any obstacle, because you are!

Take control of your life, your fears, emotions and let go of the illusion that you cannot conquer a thing. Become the leader of your life. Lead yourself to where you want to be. Breathe life back into your ambitions, your desires, your goals, your relationships. . . 
 Make this day what you want it to be, do your best and let the rest go . . .

Surrender to the Moment ...

 "It is this complete surrender to the Universe that connects us to Light"

It is a common spiritual law that everything happens for a reason. It’s a tough pill to swallow sometimes. The reasons are not always clear, but the events of our lives appear because we deserve them and because they are designed to help us to transform and grow; and transformation brings us closer to a connection with the Light…which is always good!

Today, instead of meeting every seemingly negative situation with dismay, try to be mindful that there is a lesson in the circumstance and this lesson will take you to a better place ultimately, to a higher spiritual level. In moments of distress, as difficult as it is to see the reason for our hardship, find within yourself the strength to say, “For now I will accept this challenge, not knowing the reason but trusting the universe has sent this to me for my own good and that someday I will fully understand.”

It is this complete surrender to the Universe that connects us to Light.

Unfortunately, our Desire to Receive for the Self Alone constantly seeks to distract us from having this consciousness. Instead we get in our own way, with worry and fret we make mountains out of hills. We want to fix the problem right now. We want to see the fruits of our work instantaneously. Sometimes we need to stay in the discomfort in order to reap the greatest benefit. So rather than asking for the pain to stop, ask to see what the pain is here to help you learn. Once you learn the lesson, there is no reason for the pain, right?

The Creator always has our best interest at heart. Today, we have the power to surrender to the moment, to choose to be patient, to look for the lesson and to allow the hidden gift to unfold before us.

Sunday, February 12, 2012

Why Not You? ...

“We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.”

  ~ Steve Maraboli

Today, many will awaken with a fresh sense of inspiration. Why not you?

Today, many will open their eyes to the beauty that surrounds them. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to leave the ghost of yesterday behind and seize the immeasurable power of today. Why not you?

Today, many will break through the barriers of the past by looking at the blessings of the present. Why not you?

Today, for many the burden of self doubt and insecurity will be lifted by the security and confidence of empowerment. Why not you?

Today, many will rise above their believed limitations and make contact with their powerful innate strength. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to live in such a manner that they will be a positive role model for their children. Why not you?

Today, many will choose to free themselves from the personal imprisonment of their bad habits. Why not you?

Saturday, February 11, 2012

Rocking the Boat ...

 Human nature is averse to pain and discomfort. We want everything to be smooth. But we don’t grow from staying still. We don’t bring our dreams alive by playing it safe. We don’t get what we want by waiting for God to deliver it to our doorstep. We must embrace difficulty and change if we are to create a fulfilling life for ourselves.

If a boat is not rocking, it’s not going anywhere.

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

We Project Our Strengths ...

"Any situation that you find yourself in, is an outward reflection of your inner state of beingness."
-- El Morya

We have discussed that OUR WORLD MIRRORS WHO WE ARE BACK TO US. When we get upset by something outside of us, our reaction shows us that we have an inner wound to be healed.

Just as we can be unconscious of our wounds, we can also be unconscious of our strengths. If you are really drawn to the positive qualities in another person, you are being invited to own those same qualities in yourself.

"The people we are in relationship with are always a mirror, reflecting our own beliefs, and simultaneously we are mirrors reflecting their beliefs. So relationship is one of the most powerful tools for growth... if we look honestly at our relationships we can see so much about how we have created them."
-- Shakti Gawain

"Every artist dips his brush in his own soul, and paints his own nature into his pictures."
-- Henry Ward Beecher

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

Be Reminded By Jealousy ...

"Jealousy points to your false hopes of fulfillment."  ~David Deida

If you think money will make you happy, then you will be jealous of wealthy people. If you think sex will fulfill you, then you will be jealous of passionate lovers. Whenever you believe that something or someone, some insight or some experience will truly make you happy, you are wrong. Only opening as you are is true happiness. You suffer jealousy when you forget this.

Jealousy is the sting of false hope. Even when you get that for which you are jealous—a beautiful girlfriend, fame, a man who truly loves you, great success—nothing essential changes. You are open or closed, various experiences come and go, everything gained is threatened by loss, and nothing is quite as fulfilling as your jealousy promises. 

Many people have less than you do. They are jealous of you. If they were you, how blissful would they be right now?

Bliss is the nature of deep openness. Nothing other than openness—not money, knowledge, or relationship—truly increases or decreases your bliss. This is easy to understand. Still, you are probably jealous of certain people. You want what they have.

This feeling of jealousy is a useful sign. Feel it fully. Part of you hates them for having what you don’t. Part of you justifies that you are better off without it. Part of you feels inferior for not having it. Part of you tries to feel superior by not needing it.

This complex wad of jealousy is a sign that you aren’t relaxed as

Monday, February 6, 2012

Looking For Saftey? ...

"Security is when everything is settled, when nothing can happen to you; security is the denial of life."

~ Germaine Greer

Our personality likes to be in control. It likes to know how things are and what’s going to happen. Underlying this desire for stability and predictability is a deep fear that the world is a dangerous place. The personality fears it will not survive without continually being on guard.

The truth is: we cannot control what happens in life. And under the natural law of attraction, we tend to attract to us what we focus on. EXPLORE SUBSTITUTING TRUST FOR FEAR and your world becomes a gentler, happier place.

"There are no guarantees. From the viewpoint of fear, none are strong enough. From the viewpoint of love, none are necessary."
-- Emmanuel

"One thing we can do is make the choice to view the world in a healthy way. We can choose to see the world as safe with only moments of danger rather than seeing the world as dangerous with only moments of safety."
-- Deepak Chopra

Saturday, February 4, 2012

Lean Just Beyond Your Edge ...

"Your fear is the sharpest definition of your self"  

~David Deida

In any given moment, a man's growth is optimized if he leans just beyond his edge, his capacity, his fear. He should not be too lazy, happily stagnating in the zone of security and comfort. Nor should he push far beyond his edge, stressing himself unnecessarily, unable to metabolize his experience. He should lean just slightly beyond the edge of fear and discomfort. Constantly. In everything he does....

Once you are honest with yourself about your real edge, it is best to lean just beyond it. Very few men have the guts for this practice. Most men either settle for the easy path or self-aggrandize themselves by taking the extreme hard path. Your insecurity may cause you to doubt yourself, and so you take the easy way, not even approaching your real edge or your real gift. Alternatively, your insecurity may lead you to push, push, push, seeking to become victorious over your own sense of lack. 

Both approaches avoid your actual condition in the moment, which is often fear. If you are stressfully avoiding your fear, you cannot relax into the fearless. 

Your fear is the sharpest definition of your self. You should know it. You should feel

Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Step Into Self-Awareness ...

"Getting in touch with your true self must be your first priority."
-- Tom Hopkins

Here are some different aspects of self-awareness:

- Know yourself - Explore who you are: your defences, your blocks, your talents, your aspirations, etc.

- Accept yourself - We are at war with ourselves when we resist or deny certain aspects of who we are. Acknowledge the truth of who you are right now - the positives and the negatives. Only when we own our present reality can we change.

- Control yourself - Set clear, conscious intentions and discipline yourself to meet them.

- Express yourself - Go to your heart to identify what has meaning and purpose for you. Live your truth. Identify ways you can give back to life and be in service.

We work on each of these aspects all the time. But as our lives go through cycles, we predominantly work on one of them more than the others. Which aspect are you more conscious of lately?

"Our lives improve only when we take chances ... and the first and most difficult risk we can take is to be honest with ourselves."
-- Walter Anderson

"Adventure can be an end in itself. Self-discovery is the secret ingredient that fuels daring."
-- Grace Lichtenstein