When we start reflecting and doing thought work-we realize that our thoughts are the cause of our happiness or lack thereof. What this means is that we can find a way to be happy in most situations.
When we are clear in our thinking and we feel good-we make very good decisions about our life. Accepting is not the same as settling ...
Here is the difference between settling (never do it) and accepting (always do this):
Settling: Continuing something we know is not in our best interest without doing any evaluation or thought work.
: Staying in negative emotion willingly
: Consciously giving up
: Short changing ourselves
: Feels bad
: (doubt, fear, diminished)
Accepting: Accepting something in this moment we can or cannot change doing the thought work required to stay in positive emotion.
: Staying in the current moment with a willingness to explore options from a place a peace.
: Allowing our best self to emerge
: Feels good
: (peace, love, relief)
We can accept where we are now and still take action to improve it. In fact, from acceptance there is much more opportunity to drive positive emotion. Settling for something is staying with something while at the same time rejecting it.
So, the question is... Are you accepting your situation while improving on it or are you just settling?
"It's a funny thing about life; if you refuse to accept anything but the best, you very often get it." ~W. Somerset Maugham