Monday, October 31, 2011

Sad but True...

"We have bigger houses but smaller families;
more conveniences, but less time;
We have more degrees, but less sense;
more knowledge, but less judgment;
more experts, but more problems;
more medicines, but less healthiness;
We’ve been all the way to the moon and back,
but have trouble crossing the street to meet
the new neighbor. 

We’ve built more computers to hold more
information to produce more copies than ever,
but have less communications;
We have become long on quantity,
but short on quality. 

These times are times of fast foods;
but slow digestion;
Tall man but short character;
Steep profits but shallow relationships.
It is time when there is much in the window,
but nothing in the room.”

~ Dalai Lama

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Don't Mistake Kindness for Weakness...

"Three things in human life are important: The first is to be kind. The second is to be kind. And the third is to be kind." ~Henry James

Some people mistake kindness for weakness. Contrary to this belief kind people are not weak people. It takes strength and an awareness of personal power to be kind to people. Being kind comes from the ability to see the good in each person and to be comfortable with oneself. Treating someone with kindness, when they have not earned it or deserve it, takes special inner fortitude and grace.

It is easy to be rude and treat people with disrespect. People who habitually are rude and disrespectful lack self-discipline, are weak and insecure and need to bring other people down to feel good about themselves. A person who has healthy self esteem and a strong sense of self worth does not need to demean others to feel good about themselves. In fact, they understand that by building others up they also are elevated.

People who are rude and belligerent to others are afraid of people who are equal or perhaps superior in some way. People who understand the strength of kindness understand that all people deserve to be treated with respect and are willing to learn from others. The kind person's self worth is not jeopardized or threatened by others.

People who fear the loss of power and control lash out at those around them. People who are secure with themselves and have strong self esteem understand that no one can diminish them. Building others up is a great way to create positive energy for all.

Being rude is easy. It does not take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self-discipline and strong self esteem. Being kind is not always easy and takes effort and concentration. Kindness is a sign of a person who has done a lot of personal work and has come to a great self-understanding and wisdom. Kindness is a sign of strength.

Where can you show kindness today?


"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle." ~Plato

"Wherever there is a human being, there is an opportunity for kindness." ~Seneca

Saturday, October 29, 2011

You Will Have New Dreams...

Sometimes things don’t work out,
This doesn’t mean nothing will.
One thing isn’t everything,
Now isn’t forever –
Even though it may feel like it.

Give yourself time
To see things clearly.
What we feel
Isn’t always true.
In time the disappointment will pass,
Your feelings will change,
Your life will be different,
You will have new dreams.

No matter how hard we try
We can’t hold onto today.
It will pass.
So we must hold its joys
And its

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Promise Yourself...

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind. 

To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to everyone you meet.

To make everyone you know feel that there is something good in them.

To look at the sunny side of everything and make your optimism come true. 

To think only of the best, to work only for the best, and expect only the best. 

To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as you are about your own. 

To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to greater achievements of the future. 

To wear a cheerful countenance at all times and give every living creature you meet a smile.

To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. 

To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble in your mind. 


by Christy Larson

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Random Acts of Kindness...

“Never get tired of doing little things for others. Sometimes, those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.”
Random acts of kindness are a means by which we make a deliberate attempt to brighten or help another person or stranger’s day by doing something thoughtful, caring and concerned for them.  
Those selfless Random acts of kindness are a wonderful way to reach across time and space to touch the life of another being. The power behind such act is extremely impactful and contagious.
It’s something you could do for a complete stranger, but you could also extend it to your family, friends, lover, colleague, community. Integrating it during your stressful daily life is the big ideal, but again you don’t have to really force it: you could simply be kind, be thoughtful, give compliments generously, say thank you for someone who quietly makes a difference in your community, cheer up the lonely, volunteer, share a little of your wealth around, send nice messages, forgive somebody, share a smile and ideally expect nothing.

Let’s all practice Random Act of Kindness as of this year, as of today. It’s a great way to help heal humanity. We should really start doing it ourselves as part of our daily life and not rely on others anymore to make the world a better place.

“The world could be a much better place through your kindness. All because of that single act of kindness by a stranger.”

“Appreciation can make a day – even change a life. Your willingness to put it into words is all that is necessary.”  ~Margaret Cousins




“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” ~ Leo Buscaglia


So... What will You Plan to Do To Celebrate Random Acts of Kindness??

Monday, October 24, 2011

Life's Journey...

Do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others.


It is because we are different that each of us is special.

Do not set your goals by what other people deem important.  Only you know what is best for you.

Do not take for granted the things closest to your heart.  Cling to them as you would your life, for without them, life is meaningless.


Do not let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past nor for the future.  By living your life one day at a time, you live all of the days of your life.


Do not give up when you still have something to give.  Nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying.  It is a fragile thread that binds us to each other.
Do not be afraid to encounter risks.  It is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave.

Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find.  The quickest way to receive love is to give love.  The fastest way to lose love is too hold it too tightly.  In addition, the best way to keep love is to give it wings.
 
Do not dismiss your dreams.  To be without dreams is to be without hope.  To be without hope is to be without purpose.

Do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going.  Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way...

A Moment of Solitude...


"Find a sacred space where you can enjoy the solitude and silence within your own Soul. In these quiet moments you connect with the rhythm and pulse of the Universe, which restores your equilibrium as the stress of world around you disappears." - Dr Jeff Mullan

Monday, October 17, 2011

Dalai Lama’s 18 Rules for Living...

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.
3. Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others, Responsibility for all your actions.

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.

9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live a good, honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Saturday, October 15, 2011

Give Up Being Right...

"Choose being kind over being right, and you'll be right every time."  ~Richard Carlson

Misunderstanding and disagreement in any relationship can actually be an opportunity to learn about ourselves.  However, most of the time we simply focus on how the other person is wrong.  It is easier to point the finger than to look to ourselves and face the unpleasant truth that we may share some or all of the responsibility.  We think, "If he (or she) were only more considerate, had more time for me, or did the dishes more, then I'd be happy."

Instead of looking at our own behavior, we believe that the other person is the problem.  We believe we are justified, reasonable and more than fair.  They need to change.

Of course, it is human nature to want to be right.  Most arguments start with small issues and escalate.  Problems grow the longer we hold our positions.  We gather evidence, adding fuel to the fire, and over time, we lose sight of the original issue.  What we are left with is, at best, distance in a relationship, and at worst, no relationship at all.

Examples of this kind of interaction are everywhere.  Longstanding feuds between families going back generations may have begun with something as simple as a careless comment or a misinterpreted glance.  Or the reason could be something equally insignificant as leaving dirty socks on the floor.

When I believe I am right, I spend an exorbitant amount of time re-hashing the situation in my mind.  I obsessively review the other person's responses and actions to find the evidence I need to be right.  In this internal dialogue, nothing changes.  I try to rebuild my case, yet I get nowhere.  If I continue down this path, when the time comes to discuss the matter with the other person, I've already become the judge, jury, and executioner.

It really does take more energy to hold on to being right than it does simply to be responsible for our behavior.  When we are willing to let go, problems can be solved more easily.  People are more willing to listen, to be open, and even to acknowledge responsibility when they are not under attack.

Practice
Identify Your Expectations:
First acknowledge you have expectations.  Then ask yourself if you are willing to give them up.  Stop expecting others to read your mind, to know what you want and need, and to satisfy your unspoken expectations.  Stop waiting for people to complete you.

Stop Keeping Score:
Yesterday's argument doesn't have to carry over.  Don't bring it into your next dispute.  Don't throw things in each other's faces.  Accept that we are all human.  We all make mistakes.  We have our moods, our reactions, our fears.

Acceptance:
Love people for who they are and who they aren't.  Allow them to change and grow.  Be willing to see them newly.  Don't put them in a box.  Instead of trying to make them be who you want them to be, give them the space to be who they are.

Give up Being Right:
Ask yourself--how important is your position, really?  Is being right more important than your relationships?
 


  
By Kristen Moeller. 

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Friday, October 14, 2011

You Are Who You Are...

At a certain point, life becomes less about who you're becoming and more about who you've become.  What you used to think of as the future has become the present, and you can't help but wonder if your life wouldn't be better if you'd just lived it more fully in the past.  But how could you have?  You were too busy thinking about the future!

Once you're past a certain age, you can hardly believe you wasted even one minute of your youth not enjoying it.  And the last thing you want to do now is steal any more life from yourself by failing to be deeply in it while it's happening.  You finally get it--not just theoretically, but viscerally--that this moment is all you have.

 You don't close your eyes anymore and wonder who you might be in 20 years; if you're smart, you study the tape of your current existence to monitor how you're doing now.  You see the present as an ongoing act of creation.  You look more closely at your thoughts, behavior, and interaction with others.  You understand that if you're coming at life from fear and separation, you have no reason to expect anything but fear and separation back.  You seek to increase your strengths and decrease your weaknesses.  You look at your wounds and ask God to heal them.  You ask forgiveness for the things you're ashamed of.  You no longer seek your satisfaction in things outside yourself, completion in other people, or peace of mind in either the past or future.  You are who you are, not who you might one day be.  Your life is what it is, not what it might someday be.  Focusing on who you are and what your life is right now, you come to the ironic and almost amusing realization that, yes, true living is in the journey itself. 


"The journey between what you once were and who you are now becoming is where the dance of life really takes place."   ~Barbara Deangelis

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Native American Code of Ethics...

Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone. Pray often.
The Great Spirit will listen, if you only speak.

Be tolerant of those who are lost on their path.
Ignorance, conceit, anger, jealousy and greed stem
from a lost soul. Pray that they will find guidance.

Search for yourself, by yourself. Do not allow others
to make your path for you. It is your road, and
yours alone. Others may walk it with you,
but no one can walk it for you.

Treat the guests in your home with much consideration.
Serve them the best food, give them the best
bed and treat them with respect and honor.

Do not take what is not yours whether from
a person, a community,the wilderness or from a
culture. It was not earned nor given. It is not yours.

Respect all things that

Monday, October 10, 2011

The Reason For Every Success...

It’s not enough to know what you want. You must believe it’s obtainable.

Without faith you have no reason for trying. And without trying nothing is accomplished.

Faith is the seed from which dreams grow and the reason for every success.

Faith gets you started, keeps you going, makes giving up impossible,  making your dreams possible.

You can have everything going for you and not succeed. There is no substitute for faith and no greater obstacle than fear.

You can have everything against you and still succeed.  For every obstacle life lays before you, Faith gives you wings to fly above….

Faith begins the moment you are willing to take a chance, and grows stronger with every chance you take and every effort you make.

Time changes everything and everything has its time.

Do your part.

As surely as night turns into day, When the time is right –When it’s your time – From the seed of faith...  your dream will blossom.


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