Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Set Yourself Free....

''Letting go doesn't mean we don't care.  Letting go doesn't mean we shut down.  

Letting go means we stop trying to force outcomes and make people behave.  

It means we give up resistance to the way things are, for the moment.  

It means we stop trying to do the impossible--controlling that which we cannot--and instead, focus on what is possible, which usually means taking care of ourselves. 

And we do this in gentleness, kindness, and love, as much as possible. ''   

"To let go isn't to forget, not to think about, or ignore.  It doesn't leave feelings of anger, jealousy, or regret. 

Letting go isn't about winning or losing.  It's not about pride and it's not about how you appear, and it's not obsessing or dwelling on the past.

Letting go isn't blocking memories or thinking sad thoughts, and it doesn't leave emptiness, hurt, or sadness.  It's not about giving in or giving up.

Letting go isn't about loss and it's not about defeat.  To let go is to cherish the memories, but to overcome and move on.  It is having an open mind and confidence in the future.

Letting go is learning and experiencing and growing.  To let go is to be thankful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and made you grow.  It's about all that you have, all that you had, and all that you will soon gain.

Letting go is having the courage to accept change, and the strength to keep moving.

Letting go is growing up.  It is realizing that the heart can sometimes be the most potent remedy.

"To let go is to open a door, and to clear a path and set yourself free."  
 ~ Leonard Jacobson

Monday, September 26, 2011

Accepting reality...

“...self-contempt never inspires lasting change.” ~ Jane R. Hirschmann and Carol H. Munter 

We can suck ourselves down into a deep, black hole when we focus on what we think we SHOULD be… more loving, sexy, productive, whatever. 

Thinking we should be something else is saying: "I’m not good enough now."  This is poverty thinking and a guaranteed way to be miserable. 

We can let go of this suffering by accepting WHAT IS. And instead say, “This is how I am right now and that’s perfectly okay.” 


When we first try this, we may start  saying it but not believe it. But with practice, and patience, we begin to experience the freedom this perspective brings – just by changing our minds! Then,  before long, we truly begin to believe it. What a gift! 


"Give thanks for what you are now, and keep fighting for what you want to be tomorrow."  ~Fernanda Miramontes-Landeros


“When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.” ~ Byron Katie

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Learn to pause...

“We're so engaged in doing things to achieve purposes of outer value that we forget that the inner value, the rapture that is associated with being alive, is what it's all about.”
-- Joseph Campbell 

The sages all say that the path to liberation is found in entering the stillness within.

To experience that stillness, we need to be willing to regularly stop the activity for a while. 

How do we do this in a busy life? We set our priorities. Perhaps it means giving up a TV program or using a coffee break to grab a few moments of solitude. Perhaps we have to ask our partner, relative or neighbor to give us 30 minutes of time away from the kids.  Whatever it is, we always have the option to find a few minutes to stop and reflect. 

If we really want something, we can make it happen.

"Learn to pause... or nothing worthwhile will catch up to you."
~ Doug King

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

To New Beginnings...

"What the caterpillar calls the end the rest of the world calls a butterfly."  ~Lao Tzu

Beginnings are only possible where there are endings. Clear acknowledged endings are as necessary to intelligible life, as pauses between notes to intelligible music. Although endings sometimes feel like the end of you, take them for what they really are, - the end of a stage in your life and the beginning of a brand new chapter. 

So, here is to new beginnings!  May you make the most of each and every one of them.   "Make it' a great day!"



"Every story has an end but in life, every end is just a new beginning..." 

Monday, September 19, 2011

Make Today Count ...

Art by LoveAndInk.com
"You don't have to keep feeling sorry about the past, just  as long as you make sure that what you do from now on counts!" ~ John Miyoshi

Remember that today you cannot only make a difference in your own life but in the lives of others as well.  Stay positive and no matter what, always stay true to yourself. Each moment you have a choice.  Each moment you are creating an irrevocable memory that will last a lifetime and you never know how the memories you are continuously creating will impact others and your own future. 

That's why it is so important to remain conscious of your decisions and to make good choices.  Remind yourself of what truly matters most to you and make your decisions accordingly. Put purpose and meaning behind your actions rather than your need for instant gratification.

Living carelessly and just "going through the motions" can cause you to make lazy and irresponsible choices which, although maybe unintentional, can potentially be very hurtful.  

Ultimately, nobody wants that, so just be smart about things.  Just put a little extra effort into your decision making and think as if what you do and how you do things matter... because it truly does!  

All we can do is try to live and do better than we did yesterday and try to encourage and inspire others to do better as well.  All we can do in this life is our very best... and we owe it to ourselves and those we love to do so.  If we don't, what are we here for?  

Before making a decision on anything you do, you should always make sure that you're doing whatever it is for the right reasons, so this way, you never have to be sorry about it later... 

Ask yourself: 
  • "What truly matters to me?" 
  • "Are my actions reflecting my values?" 
  • "Will I be sorry for this decision later?"  
  • "Are the consequences worth the risk?"
  • "Are the gains worth the loss?"
  • "Will this hurt anyone?"
  • "Will I have to hide this decision?" (If you do, than you aren't being true to yourself / Values)
  • "Is this decision something I will be proud to admit and stand by?" 

What it all boils down to is self respect and the respect for others, so...  Live with integrity. Be an inspiration of what to be, not what not to be! Make yourself proud...  Make today count!


"Making good choices in the future is the ultimate apology for the past."



 



Danielle Miyoshi © 2011

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Saturday, September 17, 2011

Love Your People...

Art by LoveAndInk.com
"One day in retrospect the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful." ~Sigmund Freud (1856-1939)

Some of us (all of us at one time or another) have forgotten our interdependence and obligation to other people. We’ve put ourselves (our comfort, our hearts, our minds) at the center of our universe (our universe?).

I want to encourage you to Love Your People.

Who are your people? Everyone who’s important to you… your family… your friends… your colleagues… your customers, patients, team, students. These are your people (and you’re theirs).

And love? It’s care.

And care? It’s attention and contribution (what you give, what you do). It’s kindness, patience, generosity, and truth. It’s encouraging, apologetic, forgiving, and thankful.

We’ve let too much get between us (each other) and the reasons we’re here. We’ve allowed ourselves to slip into a state of busy distraction – seeking the complex instead of embracing the simple. It’s time to stop going through the motions with our days (hours, minutes). We need to give more and enjoy more.

“The meaning of love is not to be confused with some sentimental outpouring. Love is something much deeper than emotional bosh.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.
American civil rights leader

Thursday, September 15, 2011

Be Thankful...

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life! It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our Past, brings peace for Today, and creates a vision for Tomorrow” - Melody Beattie


Today, just take a moment to reflect, pray & meditate. Be truly grateful for life, family, loved ones, health, your job, your car, your home, the  food you eat, the luxury of having coffee to drink, the  clothes you wear, the books you read, etc... Appreciate everything.

Be thankful for the little things in life because in fact,  the little things aren’t little at all. They mean everything. Appreciating the little things makes your life BIGGER. We may not always have what we want, but we always seem to have what we need. We are fortunate and truly blessed. If we look pass the confusion, chaos, trials and tribulations, we will find that beauty, happiness and joy surrounds us everyday.

 To speak gratitude is courteous and pleasant, to enact gratitude is generous and noble, but to live gratitude is to touch Heaven.” – Johannes A. Gaertner

 

“Walk with the dreamers, the believers, the courageous, the cheerful, the planners, the doers, the successful people with their heads in the clouds and their feet on the ground. Let their spirit ignite a fire within you to leave this world better than when you found it.” – Wilfred Peterson


 


Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Love: Through the Eyes of a Child...

"You can learn many things from children.  How much patience you have, for instance."  ~Franklin P. Jones
 

During a study given by students of Michigan State University,  children were asked the Question: What is Love? Here is what they had to say…

“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.” - Chrissy, age 6

“Love is what makes you smile when you’re sad.” - Terri, age 4
“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.” - Danny, age 7

“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk some more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. I like it when they talk because they look gross when they kiss.” - Emily, age 8

“Love is what our living room sounds like at Christmas when you stop opening presents and listen.” - Bobby, age 7

“My Mommy says: If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate, but I don't hate anybody...  so I think that's what love is." - Nikka, age 6

“Love is when you tell a boy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” - Noelle, age 7

“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they've been friends for a long, long time.” - Tommy, age 6

“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn’t scared anymore.” - Cindy, age 8

“My mommy loves me more than anybody. She kisses me to sleep every night; even when she thinks I'm really sleeping.” - Clare, age 6

“My Mommy loves my Daddy so much because Mommy always gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.” - Elaine, age 5

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Brad Pitt.” - Chris, age 7

“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.” - Mary Ann, age 4

“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” - Lauren, age 4

“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn’t bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That’s love.” - Rebecca, age 8

“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you.” - Karen, age 7

“You really shouldn’t say ‘I love you’ unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.” - Jessica, age 8
 I think children have a far better understanding and much clearer picture of what love is.   As adults, we tend to always complicate things...  even the greatest and most precious things such as love... 
"Love, in it's greatest and most meaningful form is found in the simplistic actions of those who are true to you." ~Danielle Miyoshi
 
 

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

Four Sources of Strength...


“Success is how high you bounce when you hit the bottom.” — General George S. Patton

Below is a post written by J.D. Meier, owner of the blog "Sources of Insight".  J.D. Meier has a passion for excellence and a passion for results who is also a fan of simple and pragmatic ways for better days. I have found tons of inspiration from Sources of Insight and I hope that you find this post as helpful as I do.  Enjoy!


Four Sources of Strength...

Life can have a lot of ups and downs and your ability to bounce back is one of the keys to your success.  This is a simple model I put together as part of my 30 Day Bootcamp on Getting Results to help you multiply your ability to bounce back in any situation.  I wasn’t sure whether to call my model a 4×4 Force Multiplier Frame or Four Sources of Strength.   For now, I’m going with Four Sources of Strength.


If you know somebody who’s been knocked down and needs help getting back up, share this frame with them as a way to help them get back on their feet and find their sources of strength from the inside out.

I tried to keep the model as simple as possible and easy to remember, while giving you a variety of sources of strength and energy to draw from.  I wanted this frame to serve as an “at a glance” reminder of how you are a force of one, from the inside out, as well as from the outside in.  Change your frame to change your game.

The Four Sources of Strength Model

The Four Source of Strength is a simple grid of four boxes and each box has four items:

Mind Body
  • Beliefs
  • Focus
  • Mental Models
  • Self-Talk
  • Cycles
  • Exercise
  • Nutrition
  • Rest
Emotions Spirit
  • Compassion
  • Physiology
  • Self-Confidence
  • Thoughts
  • Meaning
  • Purpose
  • Service
  • Values

You can use each of the four boxes as a lens for looking at your source of strength.  For example, in terms of mind and mental strength, some of your primary sources are your beliefs, what you focus on, the mental models you use, and your self-talk.

You can draw from the Four Sources of Strength when you need to bounce back or when you want to make the most of what you’ve got.  It’s a more consistent way of helping you fire on call cylinders.

Mind 
Here are some ways to bounce back with your mind:
  1. Focus on what you control and let the rest go.
  2. Like a rubber ball … Having the right mental model or metaphor is where it starts.  You can be like a rubber ball and bounce back from anything.
  3. Set limits on things.   If you let your body go until it crashes or runs out of steam, it can be too late.  You have to set limits either in terms of buffers or boundaries or timeboxes.
  4. Ask yourself, “What do you want your life to be about?”
  5. Turn resistance into your sparring partner.  Resistance is the enemy.  Respect it, but don’t let it wear you down.
  6. Visualize the prize.  If it works for Olympic athletes, it might just work for you.  Picture it, then make it so.
  7. Improve your self-talk.
  8. Change your beliefs.   Find a model or learn from others what some more empowering or useful beliefs might be.
  9. Change your focus.   You can change your focus by changing the question.
  10. Focus on what you control and let the rest go.
  11. Change your state.
  12. Know how to psyche yourself up.
  13. Don’t keep solving the same problems.  Burnout isn’t caused by working hard or working long hours.  It’s caused by working on the same problems or not making progress.
  14. Mentally prepare for it.   Simply resetting your own expectations can help you prepare for anything.  Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst.
  15. Choose to act strong
  16. Turn a setback into a defining moment.
  17. Take breaks.   Even little breaks interspersed can help you mentally, emotionally, or physically.
  18. Use your renewal patterns.   Maybe this means taking an afternoon siesta.  Find what works for you.
  19. Shake things up.   Sometimes the best way to break out of a rut is to shake things up.
  20. Shift to the future.
  21. Ask yourself, “Who’s in your corner?”
  22. Know that resistance is the enemy.
  23. Brace yourself and pace yourself.  You might have to chip away at the stone.
  24. Remember your heroes.
  25. Remember your shining moment.
  26. Play the right “head movies.”  If you keep playing the wrong scenes in your head, you wear yourself down.  Find a new scene or movie to play in your head that inspires you.
Body
Here are some ways to bounce back with your body:
  1. Allow for recovery.
  2. Take action.  Sometimes you have to take action first and then energy and motivation follow.  You can think of this as “fake it until you make it.”  This is especially true for me when I run.
  3. Play like a kid, sleep like a baby.   I heard Deepak Chopra say in an interview that children sleep like a baby because of their dynamic activity throughout the day. To know great rest, we need to know great activity and vice-versa.  I know for myself that if I don’t get my downtime, I go into a slump. I’m a fan of giving my all while I’m driving a project, and then taking a break after I ship.
  4. Avoid spiking your blood sugar.   Spiking your blood sugar is one of the worst ways to work against your body.  It creates higher highs, and lower lows.  You can reduce the roller-coaster effect by limiting your intake of things that have a high-glycemic index.  Another approach is to balance your ratios of fat, carbs, and protein, such as in the Zone Diet.
  5. Swap out starchy carbs for more fibrous ones.  This seems to be a pattern that helps a lot of people find more energy in a consistent way.
  6. Eat more frequent and smaller meals.   This is another way to balance your body’s needs throughout the day.   One pattern is to aim for having a small meal or snack throughout the day, such as every three hours.
  7. Respect your cycles.  We all have our up times and our downtimes, even throughout the day.   If you find you need more sleep, test giving yourself more sleep.   Know your peak energy cycles throughout the day and leverage those.
  8. Don’t bake bad habits in.  When Bruce Lee was “off” or he couldn’t practice a technique properly, he stopped.  The last thing he wanted to do was burn in a habit or practice that was ineffective.
Emotions
Here are some ways to better balance and bounce back with your emotions:
  1. Think the thoughts that serve you.  Your thoughts create your energy.
  2. Pull yourself forward by what you really want to do.
  3. Grow your compassion.  Keep your heart open.  One of the worst ways to kill your lust for life is to grow callous and cold.
  4. Hold yourself high.  Your physiology affects your emotions in a strong way.  Sometimes you need to smile before you feel happy.
  5. Believe in yourself.  This might mean as simple as deciding that you’ll “give it all you’ve got” and “whatever happens happens.”  You don’t have to put your focus on your ability.  You can put your focus on your effort or your determination.  Where you put your focus will change how you feel.
  6. Find your “why.”  This is how you light your fire from the inside out.  Don’t depend on external things to keep you going.  Root yourself firmly in your own foundation.
  7. Leverage your relationships and network.  There is strength in numbers or even just somebody who wants to listen.
Spirit
Here are some ways to bounce back with your spirit:
  1. Make it bigger than yourself.   Find a cause where you can put your focus on something you think is great.  Having a cause is a great way to get back on your horse or back up to bat.
  2. Do what you love or do what you were born to do.  Either way, you win.  If you can’t find your calling, then look for your unique contribution.
  3. Connect to your values.
  4. Immerse yourself in great literature or music.
  5. Find the synergy.  According to Stephen Covey, we unleash our spiritual intelligence when we combine meaning, integrity and contribution – by serving and lifting all stakeholders: customers, suppliers, employees and their families, communities, society — to make a difference in the world. 

Monday, September 12, 2011

Overcome Anger and Gain Peace...

12 Tips for Overcoming Anger and Gaining Peace
by Remez Sasson
 
Anger appears when one is confronted with frustration, unhappiness or hurt feelings, or when plans don't turn out as desired. It also shows up when coming against opposition or criticism.

Anger never helps anyone. It wastes your energy, and can hurt your health, spoil your relationships, and cause you to miss opportunities. Getting angry is acting against your best interests.

Things don't always proceed according to plans and expectations. People not always act the way you wish them to act. You may not be always able to be in control of external influences and conditions, but you can certainly learn to control your attitude and reactions. 

There is no sense of allowing circumstances and people to pull your strings and affect your mind and feelings. You can choose not to let what people say and do affect your moods. You can maintain an inner attitude of emotional and mental detachment, and refuse to allow every minor event play with your feelings and evoke anger.

I often see people getting angry over unimportant and insignificant matters. Some insignificant remark or action, not getting a satisfactory reply to a question or just moodiness are enough to set fire and cause anger, snappy remarks, arguments and even physical fights. This is absolutely unnecessary. Life can be happier without this behavior.

Anger is a negative reaction, and if you wish to progress on the path of self-improvement or spiritual growth you should avoid it as much as possible.

Learning to calm down the restlessness of the mind and gaining peace of mind, is one of the best and most effective methods to overcome anger, and in fact, all negative emotions.
If you are willing to invest the time and energy, you will reap great rewards. Peace of mind will not only help you overcome anger, but also help you overcome anxiety and negative thinking, and enable you to stay calm, tranquil and self possessed in difficult and trying situations.

Peace of mind requires the development of an attitude of emotional and mental detachment, which is of vital importance for overcoming and avoiding anger. It protects you against being too affected by what people think, say or do, and is therefore highly recommended. Detachment is not an attitude of indifference and lack of sensitivity. It is an attitude of common sense and inner strength and leads to peace of mind.

I would like to suggest a few simple tips for inner detachment and peace of mind, which will help you overcome anger:

1. Devote a few minutes, at least once a day, to thinking on how much your life would be better without anger.

2. When you feel anger arising in you, start breathing deeply and slowly several times 

3. You may, instead of breathing deeply, or better still, in addition to it, count slowly from one to ten. This will delay your angry reaction and weaken it.

4. Drinking some water has a calming effect on the body.

5. Try to be more patient, no matter how difficult it might be.

6. Be more tolerant toward people, even toward people you don't like.

7. Everyone is entitled to his/her opinion. You can disagree with people,but still maintain tact and diplomacy.

8. Choose to react calmly and peacefully in every situation. Try again and again, regardless of how many times you lose control and get angry.

9. Positive thinking makes it easier to disregard remarks and behavior that otherwise could cause anger.

10. Try to manifest at least some self-control, self-discipline and more common sense.

11. Don't take everything too seriously. It is not worth it.

12. Find reasons to laugh more often.

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© Copyright Remez Sasson

 Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are "Peace of mind in Daily Life", "Will Power and Self Discipline", "Visualize and Achieve" and "Affirmations - Words of Power".

Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

America Remembers...

 To those who have lost their lives during and well after the attacks & to families who suffer the loss of a loved one--  we will never forget  9.11.2001
  
To our nation's military and to our allies who have fought [and who are still fighting] alongside us-- a huge and humble thank you for your sacrifice and service in both Iraq and Afghanistan.  

God Bless America.

 

Pause. Remember. Honor.

Never Forget.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Friends Helping Friends...

 Editors Note:
Remember... It's OK to ask for help. You are not here to do it all alone. That would be crazy! No one does it all alone. That's why people have each other. Relying on and supporting each other is what makes the world go round. That's what community is all about!

Don't be shy about asking for help. I would like to think that it is for this very reason that many of you join communities such as Daily Geisha... to look for inspiration, to help inspire others, to help and be helped...

Please, feel free to leave posts here or on our facebook page that you feel may be helpful to inspire others as well as ask for help in a certain area of your own life... Knowing how awesome Daily Geisha's fans are, I know someone, somewhere will be more than happy to help shed a new light on a friend in need. ♥

Declare the Theme of Your Life...

"If somebody asked you the theme for your life and yourself, what could you honestly declare?" ~ Dr. Scott Christian
I found this article written by a licensed psychologist, named Dr. Scott Christian, in a local resource magazine. It makes you want to ask yourself some really important questions and helps you to realize that you can truly turn your life into one that you actually, really want to live.  I hope you find it as useful as I did.
I truly enjoyed it... and I'm still thinking about my answer to the question at the end...  : )                   -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
BrAiN FoOd To GrOw ThOuGhT,  ReSpOnSiBiLiTy,  aNd HaPpInEsS  
by Dr. Scott Christian, Licensed Psychologist

It took a second, but you figured it out.  By doing so, you just fed your brain.  Things that are unusual or require problem-solving will cause our brain to stand at attention, just as this title caught yours.  It is made to figure things out, put them in a category, and efficiently use them later for our benefit.  When it struggles with this, a variety of emotions can occur.  When we think in a certain way repetitiously, it becomes and automatic pattern, even without out realization. Many underestimate the power of thoughts in emotional control, but experience and research shows otherwise. 

It is our current thoughts, even if packed away from the past, reused, and outdated, that establish our coping skills and emotional and behavioral approach IN and TO this world.  If somebody asked you the psychologist theme for your life and yourself, what could you  honestly declare?  Read the following and find the parts you disagree with, and then examine how you came to this conclusion:
 

Thoughts for a Positive, Evolving Life...

"It is responsible change that makes me live and grow.  My experiences, whether small or large, added or subtracted, that make up what I call life.  It is my decision what I include in this equation, regardless if I choose to accept this responsibility.  If I add fun, life will become fun.  If I throw stones, life will be rocky.  It is each addition and subtraction, one after another, that builds my current life equation.  Day by day, I can increase the positive sum of my past, as it is only written in memories and feelings, just as I am doing right now. Even adding something only once a day, I will imagine and reach the life I desire.  Subtractions will inevitably occur, but need not overtake me.  These are simply opportunities to learn and grow.  Each event that occurs, no matter how mundane or enormous I may imagine, is inevitably counted in this equation.  My freedom is in my perception.  I am the mathematician of my life."


Thoughts for Continuous, Positive Self-Growth...

"I am committed to becoming the authentic, satisfied person I want and know I can become... the simpler, more flowing, and spiritually enriching "me" that I have caught glimpses of in the past.  Despite the predictable distractions put in my way, either by chance or my own doing, I will evolve these glimpses of my true self into my daily reality.

Discomfort comes when not being true to myself, and I will listen to this.  I will remind myself that I can change as I choose, even though I may try to convince myself avoidance of this discomfort is best.  This is how I achieve growth.  I refuse to let fear defeat my success .  Self-trust and comfort will blossom and strengthen as I follow what promotes my health.  My emotions will rationally guide my life and promote my success.  I understand this takes practice.  I will not ignore my needs through irrational compromise that does not suit me.  This will psychologically and spiritually complicate my life with emotional clutter that impairs my ability to connect with the person I really am and reach the many goals I can surely attain.  I will trust my judgment as it is given to me and honestly  refine it to promote the strengths I already possess, and use them in the best way I know how.  This is all I can ask of myself, as it is my best.  Others can ask no more than this from me.  For this I will be candidly proud, as it will bring me to my authentic self.  I will address matters head on, even if I need to step back for a few moments before doing so.  I will create new strengths.  I will never forget the importance of kindness and tolerance  for others.  I will overuse gratitude, guide myself rationally, and do the same for others.  Still, I will refuse to distort the truth to maintain unresolved self-doubts or foster this deception in others.  This will inevitably draw people to me, yet sometimes push them away, but this is acceptable if my intentions are pure.  I will improve upon this daily, and everyday thereafter to create my life.  I will take things as they come, open myself to different experiences, and not confuse material wants with genuine happiness.  I will balance my life through promoting my virtues, and slap the concept of failure  on the wrist, as it only bullies  personal growth.  I can handle what comes my way as I learn through experience.  Despite some uncertainty, I welcome my life to grow as it is meant.  I will trust my ability to know, feel, and do, respectfully, because I can create happiness."

Wash, rinse, and repeat daily to create and authentic, happy, life pattern. 

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I suggest writing these affirmations down and looking at them each day, but first, ask yourself this: 

If somebody asked you the theme for your life and yourself, what could you honestly declare?

Take a moment to think carefully and write your response below...

Friday, September 9, 2011

Living in the Present...

by Remez Sasson

"Nothing is worth more than this day."
~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

"I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is."
~Alan Watts

Living in the present means being aware and conscious of what you are doing, feeling and thinking at the present moment. It means shifting your attention to the present moment and dealing with it effectively, instead of focusing on the past or future. The past has gone away and you cannot change it, and the future is the outcome of the present, of the way you think, feel and act now.

True living occurs in the present moment, the only moment that exists.

Below you will find a conversation between a teacher and a pupil about living in the present. This is an excerpt from the book 'Peace of Mind in Daily Life'.

Teacher: Living in the present moment helps you to avoid worries, fears and anxieties, and wasting your time on futile and negative thoughts.

If you keep thinking about the past, you allow all kinds of emotions and thoughts to rise into your consciousness, affecting the way you feel and think. Most often, such reminiscing disturbs the mind and agitates it, which is the opposite of peace of mind.

It is the same with thinking about the future. It is okay if you devote some time to thinking about it and planning it, but if you just keep dwelling on it and worrying about it, you are keeping peace of mind away.
The best approach would be to direct your attention to the present moment, to what you are doing and what is happening around you at each moment. By occupying your mind with the present moment you keep your mind busy, and don't make room for worries, anxieties, fears or unpleasant memories.

Pupil: Do you mean to say that I should not think about the past and the future?

Teacher: Learn from the past and plan for the future, but don't dwell too much on them. You cannot change the past and you cannot yet live in the future. The only place where you can live and act is in the present. Actually, what you do in the present affects your future.

Reliving past events in your mind and daydreaming about the past or the future, keep the mind busy with endless thoughts, but if you focus your mind on the present moment, you don't make room in your mind for unnecessary and disturbing thoughts or emotions.

Living in the present means that you direct your attention to what is happening now, enjoying it and making the most of it. By focusing your mind on the present, you don't have time or opportunity to wallow in useless and negative thoughts and emotions relating to the past or the future.

Wake up to the present moment and live in it. The past happened and is over, so what is the use of reliving it? 

You lose peace of mind if you constantly live in the past and think and visualize events that have already happened. You also gain nothing by worrying about the future. On the other hand, concentrating on the present moment, on what is happening or what you are doing right now, frees you of unnecessary, burdensome and unpleasant thoughts and emotions, and brings peace into your mind.

An excerpt from the book 'Peace of Mind in Daily Life'.

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© Copyright Remez Sasson

Remez Sasson teaches and writes on positive thinking, creative visualization, motivation, self-improvement, peace of mind, spiritual growth and meditation. He is the author of several books, among which are "Peace of mind in Daily Life", "Will Power and Self Discipline", "Visualize and Achieve" and "Affirmations - Words of Power".

Visit his website and find articles and books filled with inspiration, motivation and practical advice and guidance.

Thursday, September 8, 2011

Release your creativity...

"If there is one thing of which I am totally certain it is this- You were born to create."
It may be you were born to create the most beautiful computer code or the best cup cakes in your home town. But you were born to do something you love doing.

It may be that you are already doing what it is you love, in which case I can only take my hat off to you and say "what on earth are you still doing reading this e-zine" no I am kidding.

However, for most of us, our passion and our jobs lie somewhere apart. But that's OK as long as you make time to do whatever it is you love to do. However, I would like to challenge you to think about making your "hobby" or as I prefer to call it - your PASSION - your "job" or the thing that brings you money and / or other rewards to you at some point in the not too distant future. We can all be faked out by the phrase "sometime in the future" but who knows how long we have each been given.

Part-time if necessary, until such time as you can say goodbye to your "day" job and let your passion take over.

Now I could tell you how to go about that - but that is not what today's post is all about. Today I would like to talk to you about how to find out what your creative streak is - assuming you haven't found it yet. And to challenge a few of you who think they know what that is, with a - "are you sure?" After all it does not hurt to take another look.

So how do you find where your creative streak lies?

There are many ways to do this:

  1. Check your hobbies - what do you do when you have time?
  2. What do you think about - apart from the usual, kids, spouse, jobs, work, bills etc?
  3. What is on your dream goal list or your dream board?
  4. What do you wish you had time to do?
  5. What did you use to do as a child?
  6. What do you write about in your journals?
  7. When you talk about owning your own business what does it look like? Smell like? What can you see, hear, feel?
  8. When you go for a walk to do your mental filing - what do you think about most often? What do I mean by "mental filing"? This is what I call a walking meditation - it allows you to put into perspective, dump or archive the day's activities and trivia. I like to do my mental filing at night and I feel out of sorts if I don't get at least half an hour of down time to do so. Tonight my mental filing occured when I walked to the shops to choose the ingredients for tonights dinner. (I should also have taken a list as I forgot half of what I was supposed to get - but you get that). But my planning time, my creative time comes in my morning walks, usually around 6am. I have found numerous business ideas, ideas for issues for this ezine, and other books and articles I write. If I can persuade you to do ANYTHING it is to get into the habit of 2 walks a day - preferably without anyone else as all you will do is talk - and to let your mind wander. Evening to file, morning to create. 30 minutes twice a day for you.
  9. Ditch the technology for a while every day. We are so connected we can be forgiven we are not hard wired into the network. Turn it off, leave it at home and walk without distractions - and I mean, no phones, no music, no nothing.... But in addition to the walking I have been talking about, I need you to think about finding a couple of things. Pens, pencils, paper and blank books. If you are stuck - doodle ... write down as many answers to a problem as you can think of, then once you have thought about them from your perspective, look at the issue as if you were giving a friend some advice. Journals - use them to record your dreams, business ideas, poems, book outlines or whatever it is you are thinking about. Write them down, let them out of your mind and into the real world. Some of them you may think are totally ridiculous - so what, some may end up being the perfect solution to whatever "problem" you are facing and some may be that million dollar business idea.
  10. Play. Yes I did say play. Play with the kids or the grandkids, or your siblings. Whatever - do you remember how carefree kids at play can be? No - then you definitely need to remember how to play. Go the park, play on the swings, release the stress and negativity we carry with us like a badge of honor
  11. Spend some time in art gallery's, libraries, fabric stores, bookshops, museums. Walk through and let the visual into your cluttered thought filled mind.
  12. Read a book. One thing I forgot I enjoyed was reading a couple of pages of a book just before turning out the light and going to sleep. However, be careful of your choice as I have made the mistake of choosing a book that a) I could not stop after just a couple of pages and b) scared the living daylights out of me.
  13. Watch a movie - preferably on DVD - television bothers me as there are usually too many ads to the TV program, but a movie is a good way to relax and allow your creative mind a chance to come out of hiding.
  14. If it's possible for you - go outside at night, somewhere where you will be safe, spread a blanket and lie down.... wide screen at its natural best.... I have (IMO) one of the best night skies around - why? Because there is little or no light pollution where I am. Count the stars, grab your partner and get them involved in this one.... you'd be surprised at the bad backs this one creates - no I meant conversations.
  15. Take a regular holiday - get away from the "normal" stuff and fill our minds with new things to see and do

I know we have just touched on this fascinating topic of releasing our creative streaks, and I know you will have some suggestions of your own, so don't be shy - you can leave a comment and let your fellow readers know how you find your creative side here -

But in the mean time, enjoy, it's your life, lets get out the color palette and go crazy

With many thoughts,
Elle

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Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Free yourself from resentment...

''One forgives to the degree that one loves. '' ~ Francois de La Rochefoucauld

Anytime you’re filled with resentment, you’re turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.

Removing resentment and blame from your life means never assigning responsibility to anyone for what you’re experiencing. It means that you’re willing to say, “I may not understand why I feel this way, why I have this illness, why I’ve been victimized, or why I had this accident, but I’m willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life.” Why do this? If you take responsibility for having it, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it.

First, you have to get past blame. Then you have to learn to send love to all, rather than anger and resentment. Just as no one can define you, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you’ll find yourself free of the negative energy of resentment, and you’ll be able to live a life of contentment. A bonus is that you’ll find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy.

At the root of virtually all spiritual practice is the notion of forgiveness. Think about every single person who has ever harmed you, cheated you, defrauded you, or said unkind things about you. Your experience of them is nothing more that a thought that you carry around with you. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you. If you could release them, you would know more peace.

You practice forgiveness for two reasons: to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of hostility with them and to free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment. Send love in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel.


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