Wednesday, August 31, 2011

A Lesson in Life...

"Everything happens for a reason."

Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, if they be events, illnesses or relationships, life would be like a smoothly paved, straight, flat road to nowhere.

If someone hurts you, betrays you , or breaks you heart, forgive them. For they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to who you open your heart to.

If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, not only because they love you, but because they are teaching you to love and opening your heart and eyes to things you would have never seen or felt without them.

Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from it everything that you possibly can, for you may never be able to experience it again. 

Talk to people you have never talked to before, and actually listen. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don't believe in yourself, no one else will believe in you either.

You can make of your life anything you wish but you have to really believe you can!  Create your own life and then go out and truly live it!

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

You Make a Difference...

Believe that...
When you show up for the people in your life, even though you’re having a hard day, you make a difference.

When you share what you’re dealing with, even though it makes you feel vulnerable, and help other people through your honesty, you make a difference.

When you practice what you preach, you make a difference.

When you honor your needs to create a sense of inner calm and well-being that permeates your interactions with others, you  make a difference.

When you cut yourself some slack so you can use your energy to love, create, and inspire, you make a difference.

When you give people the benefit of the doubt, you make a difference.

When you listen fully, instead of waiting to talk, you make a difference.

When you focus more on being kind than being right, you make a difference.

When you find beauty in the world around you and help other people see it, you make a difference.

When you realize that your everyday actions are your greatest legacy, you make a difference.

"Act as if what you do makes a difference.  It does." ~ William James

Monday, August 29, 2011

Always Think Positively...

 Never use the word impossible again. Seriously. . Toss it into the verbal wastebasket. Self-trust is the first secret of success. So believe in and trust yourself. Stand up to your obstacles and do something about them. You will find that they haven't half the strength you think they have. Joy increases as you give it, and diminishes as you try to keep it for yourself. In giving it, you will accumulate a deposit of joy greater than you ever believed possible. How you think about a problem is more important than the problem itself - always think positively. Make it a great day!

Saturday, August 27, 2011

You Were Not Born to Fail...

"Welcome every morning with a smile. Look on the new day as another special gift from your Creator, another golden opportunity to complete what you were unable to finish yesterday. Be a self-starter. Let your first hour set the theme of success and positive action that is certain to echo through your entire day. Today will never happen again. Don't waste it with a false start or no start at all. You were not born to fail." ~Og Mandino

Friday, August 26, 2011

Have a strength people crave...

We each have a different kind of strength.  Some of us are able to persevere against hopeless odds.  Some are able to see light in a world of darkness.  Some are able to give selflessly with no thought of return, while others are able to bring a sense of importance into the hearts of those around them.

But no matter how we exhibit strength, its truest measure is the calm and certain conviction with which it causes us to act.  It is the ability to discern the path with heart, and follow it even when at the moment we might wish to be doing something else.

True strength is not about force, but about conviction.  It lives at the center of belief where fear and uncertainty cannot gain a foothold.  Its opposite is not cowardice and fear, but confusion, lack of clarity, and lack of sound intention.

True strength does not require an adversary and does not see itself as noble or heroic.  It simply does what it must without praise or need of recognition.

A person who

Thursday, August 25, 2011

Be the catalysts for your own change...

“The great thing in the world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving.” ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes 

We are all on a life-long journey. It is a search for who we are and why we are here. It is a journey that expands our consciousness. 

There is an urge within each of us to move forward in life. It is an urge to become more whole, to find more meaning, and eventually to help others. It is human nature to strive for a sense of well-being. 

We all go through the same growth cycles, though our experiences may appear entirely different. By understanding the process of personal and spiritual growth, we can work more effectively with the process, instead of fighting and resisting it. 

“We can learn to be the catalysts for our own change.” ~Sarah Ban Breathnach 

What is it that you truly wish to do in this life and what changes do you need to make to make it happen?  What changes do you need to make most to really grow as a person?

Wednesday, August 24, 2011

4 Common Roadblocks on the Path to Optimism, and How to Overcome Them


 “For myself I am an optimist – it does not seem to be much use being anything else”
~Winston Churchill


If you are reading this then there is good chance that you agree with me that optimism is pretty awesome. But it is not always easy to adopt a more optimistic attitude and there are roadblocks. So today I’d like to share a few of them that I have bumped into and how I have overcome them. 

You are swimming in a sea of negativity.
If you are trying to change your attitude then it’s not very helpful to live in a world where forces try to drag you back to your old mindset each day. It makes it very hard to change.
What you allow into your mind will have a big effect on you. So be selective. If you’re hanging out with negative people all the time then that can really drag you down. It’s not easy to stay optimistic when pessimism is the default mode in your world.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

A Viscious Cycle...

The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered:

"Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result of being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived."

Monday, August 22, 2011

Try Something New for Yourself...

“Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand small uncaring ways.” ~ Stephen Vincent Benet 

What’s needed for a new relationship with time and life? 

Intention -- Get really clear about what you want. 

Desire -- How much do you want something new for yourself? Know your motivation. Desire brings the energy for change. 

Belief and/or willingness to trust -- You can have what you want. If belief is lacking, can you believe in the possibility that you can find a new way of living? 

Perseverance, discipline -- It takes time and effort to change attitudes and habits. We can’t expect a new life overnight. 

Acceptance, both of what’s happening now and of who we are. Until we honestly and openly accept our present situation, we cannot change it. 

A willingness to try something new. 

“It is so easy to waste our lives: our days, our hours, our minutes. ... It is so easy to exist instead of live. Unless you know there is a clock ticking. So many of us changed our lives when we heard a biological clock and decided to have kids. But that sound is a murmur compared to the tolling of mortality.” ~ Anna Quindlen 

Don't wait for time to start running out before you feel a sense of urgency to do what you've always wanted to do in life...  Don't waste another day waiting... Do what you love now!

Friday, August 19, 2011

Reach For Your Star...

Do not take anything as being forever 
because forever
is only as long as today.
Know that the people who are richest
are not those who have the most,
but those who need the least.
We are at our strongest
when life is at its worst,
and at our weakest
when life no longer offers a challenge.

It is wiser not to expect
but to hope,
for in expecting you ask for disappointment,
whereas in hoping you invite surprise.

Thursday, August 18, 2011

The Power of Repeated Words and Thoughts

by Remez Sasson

Thinking is usually a mixture of words, sentences, mental images and sensations. Thoughts are visitors, who visit the central station of the mind. They come, stay a while, and then disappear, making space for other thoughts. Some of these thoughts stay longer, gain power, and affect the life of the person thinking them.

It seems that most people let thoughts connected with worries, fears, anger or unhappiness occupy their mind most of the time. They keep engaging their mind with inner conversation about negative situations and actions. This inner conversation eventually affects the subconscious mind, making it accept and take seriously the thoughts and ideas expressed in

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Overcoming Nonstop Thinking...

by Remez Sasson

Are you aware that your mind is always occupied with thoughts? Are you aware that thoughts constantly demand your attention, dictate your behavior and reactions?

Do you sometimes feel that your mind is going to explode from nonstop thinking? Can you focus your attention on what you are doing at any moment, or are you constantly distracted by all kinds of thoughts, negative thinking or negative expectations? You need to learn to overcome your nonstop thinking in order to gain control over your attention.

Do you sometimes wish your mind could just stop thinking for a little while, and let you enjoy some rest and peace? Like an engine, it has to rest to avoid wear and tear. It needs

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Who We Really Are...

"The most important human endeavor is the striving for morality in our actions. Our inner balance and even our very existence depend on it. Only morality in our actions can give beauty and dignity to life." ~ Albert Einstein
- It is our choices ... that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities. -

Monday, August 15, 2011

Beautiful People Do Not Just Happen...

‎"The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen." ~ Elisabeth K├╝bler-Ross

Sunday, August 14, 2011

Use Today For Something Good...

"This is the beginning of a new day. You have been given this day to use as you will. You can waste it or use it for good. What you do today is important because you are exchanging a day of your life for it. When tomorrow comes, this day will be gone forever; in its place is something that you have left behind... let it be something good."

Saturday, August 13, 2011

Laugh a Little...

"I love people who make me laugh. I honestly think it's the thing I like most, to laugh. It cures a multitude of ills. It's probably the most important thing in a person."
~Audrey Hepburn

I found this video today on one of my favorite inspirational sites and couldn't resist re-posting it. The article stated that a recent health study determined that there are three primary reasons people can't cope in life:

  • They have low self-esteem
  • They live in the past
  • They don't laugh enough

In my opinion, I think it's partially because people can sometimes take life too seriously. I also read that the same study concluded that we need a minimum of 12 laughs per day just to stay healthy. I totally agree with this and personally, find it to be very true. I try to look for the humor in everything. For me, life without humor is simply miserable!  I think it was Charlie Chaplin who said: "A day without a laugh is a wasted day."...  I think

Friday, August 12, 2011

Take Nothing For Granted...

Appreciation - The recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.
Appreciation is one of the most highly valued virtues. Yet for some reason, most of us often take for granted what we have, from our jobs, our financial status, our health, our homes, to the people around us - our parents, our spouse,our friends, even our pets.
Today we should all spend some time focusing on appreciation. Giving appreciation for what we hold dear to us, and giving appreciation to what we value in life.  We should take a few moments to really think about what our life would be like if we were to lose any of these things or people. Just imagine what you would wish you "could have said" or "should have done" if you woke up tomorrow only to realize that it was all just... gone.

Thursday, August 11, 2011

Put Your Pride Aside...

"Saying you're sorry doesn't mean that you think you're wrong; it just means that you value the other person more than your pride."

I cannot count how many times this little piece of wisdom has come in handy for me through the years. Arguing with me was nothing short of a complete nightmare. 

I would defend my side of the argument, no matter what it was, until I was blue in the face; just for the sake of proving my point. 

Now, when I catch myself getting a little over-heated, six little words pop into my head: "I don't have to be right."  Fights can sometimes go on and on because neither person will back down. After a while the topic that caused the fight isn't even in clear sight and yet the fight continues for the mere fact of being right. It becomes so ridiculous. (And exausting!)

Wednesday, August 10, 2011

Always Follow Your Intuition...

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Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinion drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

Life Makes No Guarantees...

"Life holds no promises as to what will come your way. You must search for your own ideals and work toward reaching them. Life makes no guarantees as to what you’ll have. It just gives you time to make choices and to take chances and to discover whatever secrets that might come your way. If you are

 willing to take the opportunities you are given and utilize the abilities you have, you will constantly fill your life with special moments and unforgettable times." ~ Dena DiIaconi

Monday, August 8, 2011

Judge No One...

"We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation.  It's one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it's another to think that yours is the only path." ~Paublo Coelho

Judgment keeps us from compassion, because we close off to our own heart. We are not able to receive anything that is outside of our point of view, which is always narrow. Learning to receive is the foundation of loving people because it offers them the room to be just as they are. Our best judgments (even when they are correct) imprison us in a world that we think we are improving by our beliefs; in actuality, it cuts us from the world, because it shuts the door to the people we love and shuts us off from being connected to the largeness of how things really are...

When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself.  ~Wayne Dyer

Sunday, August 7, 2011

Discover who you are...

''There is no challenge more challenging than the challenge to improve yourself.''  

~Michael F. Staley

There may be days when you get up in the morning and things aren't the way you had hoped they would be.

That's when you have to tell yourself that things will get better.

There are times when people disappoint you and let you down,but those are the times when you must remind yourself to trust your own judgments and opinions,to keep your life focused on believing in yourself and all that you are capable of.

There will be challenges to face and changes to make in your life,and it is up to you to accept them.

Constantly keep yourself headed in the right direction for you. It may not be easy at times, but in those times of struggle you will find a stronger sense of who you are, So when the days come that are filled with frustration and unexpected responsibilities, remember to believe in yourself and all you want your life to be, because the challenges and changes will only help you to find the goals that you know are meant to come true for you.

''There are no great people in this world, only great challenges which ordinary people rise to meet."  ~William Frederick Halsy, Jr.

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Create Yourself...

"People often say that this or that person has not yet found him or herself. But the self is not something that one finds.  It is something one creates.'' ~Thomas Szasz

Friday, August 5, 2011

5 Steps to Success...

The “Middleton Method”: Kate Middleton’s 5 Steps to Success

Posted by Misha Henckel

Kate Middleton has risen from middle class obscurity to become The Duchess of Cambridge, future queen of England, and one of the most recognizable women in the world. Today, she landed at the top of Vanity Fair’s International Best Dressed List. Some people may think that she’s just a pretty girl who got lucky and married a prince. But I’ve been following her for a number of years, observing her choices and there’s quite a bit more to her than that. I would say that this is young woman who is not afraid to follow her path. She’s taken some big risks and, yes, for a while there was some doubt as to how it would play out. But things have certainly worked out for this ordinary girl from Berkshire. So what is her secret to success? What is the “Kate Middleton Method?” I’ve listed 5 steps below that I believe led to her success, steps we can all use in our own lives.

1. Know your worth, believe in yourself, and set your sights high. Kate never questioned whether she was worthy enough to

To Love Is to Be Patient...

"Love will inspire you to become a patient person. When you choose to be patient, you respond in a positive way to a negative situation. You are slow to anger. You have a long fuse instead of a quick temper. Rather than being restless and demanding, love helps you settle down and begin extending mercy to those around you. Patience brings an internal calm during an external storm." ~The Love Dare

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Do What You Love...

Happiness lies in fulfilling your life's purpose, your hearts true desire. When you concentrate on fulfilling your purpose in life, you end up helping out loved ones in the process. Learn to take care of yourself, do what you truly love to do and you won't end up resenting others for not meeting those needs...

Wednesday, August 3, 2011

You Are Not Your Worst Mistakes

Know that you are not your worst mistakes.  Our past actions shaped today. But we are not what we’ve been. We don’t need to carry around labels or mistakes from yesterday as if they define us. Whatever you’ve done, it’s over. It doesn’t have to brand you, particularly not if you’re making the conscious choice to do things differently now.
We can judge ourselves by the weakest moments or the strongest—that’s our choice. Choose to focus on the strongest, and then leverage that pride for more of those moments. Every time you feel good about what you do it’s one more reminder to love who you are.

Tuesday, August 2, 2011

Detach to succeed...

I often write about the importance of practicing inner detachment.  Inner detachment is one of those practices that is easily misunderstood by many people. It is often mistranslated as indifference, which is the farthest from it's true definition. To help clarify the true meaning of inner detachment I have posted an article by one of my favorite authors, Remez Sasson:

The Importance of Inner Detachment for Success
by Remez Sasson

We are often told that success requires motivation, desire and ambition, but there is another important ingredient, and this is inner detachment.

I hear you now saying, "What has inner detachment to do with success? Isn't detachment a state of indifference? How can one attain success with such a state of mind?"

These are erroneous assumptions! Inner detachment is not indifference! I am not speaking here about asceticism or abstinence. One can lead a normal, ordinary life, and yet display inner emotional and mental detachment.

I want to make it clear. True emotional and mental detachment is not a state of indifference, apathy or lack of energy. One can be

Monday, August 1, 2011

Difficult People Need Love Too...

“The people who are the hardest to love are the ones who need it the most."

Some people have hardened their hearts or have not been raised with love in their lives growing up. Some of them do learn to accept the love of another at some point in their life but those who lacked this vital element in their early years, have learned to survive without it. Therefore for them, love is most difficult to give and/or receive.
Maybe some people grew up under tough circumstances and view showing love as a weakness rather than the most elemental gift in the human spirit. Maybe that defense is all they've ever known and simply haven't developed the ability altogether.  Sometimes people can just be flat out bitter about life's events and choose to be grumpy. And other times it may be that some people are just having a harder time dealing with things in their life than we realize. 

In any case, these people can be very challenging to deal with.  However, those who are the hardest to love can be the ones who teach us the most about ourselves. They can reveal to us where our boundaries lie, show us where our unconditional love falters, and becomes splintered into conditional love.  They can help to  reveal our levels of judgement. These people can possibly teach us some of the most important lessons in our life such as patience and compassion.